How to Make Your Regular Members Feel Valued (and Why You Should)

“These are your return customers, the ones who come to your chosen cam site not just to see girls, but to see you.” (source:

Think of one time when your favorite clothing brand sent you a dedicated email — with your name in the subject line and all that — thanking you for being their loyal customer.

And offering you… something, anything: special discount, a free item, etc.

You knew that this was just a small brick of their whole marketing strategy. And yet, for a few seconds at least, you felt… special, didn’t you?

And valued.

It’s pretty much the same thing with those SkyPrivate members who keep coming back to take you private on Skype:

You’ll want to keep them, cherish them, make them feel… valued!

Pro tip! Always aim for an exclusive club of loyals rather than for a whole legion of… one-timers.

Value consistency and the quality of the relationships you develop with your regular members over mere quantity. 

Now, let’s dive in and see which are the 5 simple ways that you can make your biggest fans on SkyPrivate feel valued for their loyalty.

1. Leave Them “Thank You” Notes after Your Sessions Together

And this is just being polite, after all. 

Did you have a 30-minute (or longer) one-on-one with Him today? Invest no more than 1-2 minutes in a short message on Skype:

“Thank you for today. I’ve really enjoyed it and hope you’ve had a great time, too . Looking forward to our next session together already.“ (or something like that…)

You’ll reach 2 targets at once:


  1. You’ll make him feel valuable and somehow “worthy” of your off-cam time. For, since you’ve taken some of your free time to send out that message, you show him that he’s more than a random “human ATM” to you.
  2. You let him know that you’ve enjoyed it, too.

And believe it or not, this is one of the fantasies that almost any member on SkyPrivate has: that you, too, his favorite babe around here, are having fun.

That you’re genuinely enjoying spending time with him.

Now, if you wish, you could go to the next level and personalize your message a bit more.

A discreet, yet powerful reference here and there to the jokes or to specific details from your previous one-on-one is enough to turn a generic “Thank you” note into a dedicated message.

Just make sure you don’t go overboard with the personalization part.

Otherwise, you risk going from being too impersonal to being too… desperately sweet.

2. Maintain a Basic Follow-Up

And this is no more than writing them short messages like:

“Hey, X! Missed me? I’ll be on Skype tomorrow from 3 PM to 8 PM, so if you want us to pick up where we left last time, feel free to stop by.”

OK, maybe you’ve already posted a message like this one on your Twitter account for your entire fan club to see. 

But it’d be a whole different if you added his name and sent it to him directly. Then he’d no longer feel like just a face in your “crowd of customers”.

He’d feel… special.

And since we’re talking about really special customers here, you, too, are a special babe for him. Otherwise, he wouldn’t come back again and again.

But don’t take that for granted. Instead, get the most out of it.

3. Send Them Surprise Custom Pictures/Videos Now and Then

And here make sure that they’re 100% custom-tailored to each regular’s preferences and not just some free photo sets that you want to surprise them with.

For it’s one thing to give away something and a whole different thing to offer something that’s ultra-personalized. And which shows them that you’ve paid attention.

That you do remember that, for instance, one loyal member had a thing for cheerleader roleplays, but that he’s not so much into the… school teacher fetish.

The idea is to make them feel special and unique, and not simply remembered and acknowledged.

4. Give Them Birthday Private Shows at a Special Rate

If we’re talking about a really special member, consider setting a special rate for him on his birthday and treating him with a “Skype session” type of present.

Not only that you show him that you remembered his birthday, but you impress him by giving him some of your free time.

Just like friends do…

Since time is money and money is time and you’ve just lowered your rate for him, you are giving him some of your… free time, don’t you agree?

Of course, this calls for a little preparation, but so what if you can’t book a session with him on that exact day? Celebrate his birthday on… any other day!

It all comes down to being friendly and attentive, after all. I’d add “empathetic”, as well.

Just put yourself into his shoes:

Wouldn’t you want some extra attention on your birthday from your own favorite people, too? 

And since he’s a regular, you, too, have your special spot on his own list of favorite people.

5. Simply Remember the Things You Two Talked About

“She remembered names, birthdays, personal problems people were struggling with, and details about the joys in the lives of her members.” (source:

Be an active listener.

No need to take any more of your off-cam time for this. Or to do anything more than just … listen to what your members are telling you during your Skype sessions together.

Did he mention that he had a dog or a cat? Or both? What were their names? Did he say he hated his job as a…? Or was it that he’s recently got the job of his dream, in fact?

Did you talk music or films?

Did he tell you about his addiction? Or about specific body image issues or family problems that he had? 

Keep it in mind, remember it, and act upon it.

Meaning that you should tailor, build, and grow your relationship with your loyal members based on the personal and even intimate info that they share with you.

The END!

Now, these are all common sense things that you could do to make your special members feel… special, don’t you think?

Are you applying them all already?

Or is there any advice on this list that you’d like to apply starting now? A penny for your thoughts in the comments down below


8 Ways to Engage Your Members: How to Increase Your Call Duration

8 Ways to Engage Your Members: How to Increase Your Call Duration

“When people take me private, more often than not they sign off after just a few minutes! This makes me feel self-conscious, like my shows might not be good…”

Does this sound (all too) familiar to you?

You barely get the time to strip off that your customers sign off.

Then, you keep reading about all these other cam girls who have 20-30 min. long Skype calls (or longer). How do they do that?

How is that even possible? And what is it that you’re doing wrong?

Disclaimer: you’re not doing anything “wrong”! You just need to improve the way you approach your customers a little bit.

This pretty much comes down to one crucial thing: you need to get to know your members (really) well!

And how do you get to do that? Here are 8 simple techniques you can use:

1. Take a Good Look at Them and Their Surroundings

Cam2cam private sessions are “gold” for you when it comes to getting to know your members. Especially when you’re dealing with someone who’s… not much of a talker.

Look at them and employ a little human psychology:

  • How are they dressed?
  • What facial expressions do they have at different moments during the call (do they look shocked when they see you take out that huge dildo or rather… eager?)
  • Do they keep eye contact with you or look at your boobies at all times?
  • What haircuts do they have: a stylish one or a retro, “was cool back in the 80s” kind of haircut?

Next, do your best to get as many clues as you can from the backdrops:

  • a basement-like gloomy room decor (introvert guy there!) or maybe you see a shelf with lots of… board games?
  • a collection of toy cars or maybe there’s a… baseball glove hung there, on the wall?
  • a messy room or a super neat one (OCD alert!)?

2. Pay Attention to Them

And I can’t stress this enough. If you want to get to know your customers:

  • leave your phone in another room (or at least put it on silent mode)
  • don’t stream on multiple cam sites at the same time (there’s no way that you’ll build relationships with them like that; they’ll know you’re not giving them your full attention)
  • keep all distractions away (TV, loud music, etc.) when you’re in a one-on-one session with a customer

The more you let your senses (hearing and sight) distracted by other stimuli, the fewer chances you’ll have to pick up on those hints that your members are giving you.

“Hints” that will help you to get to know them better.

Like the fact that there’s a dog, his dog, barking in the backyard, but… too bad that your music is too loud to hear it.

3. Ask Them Their Names

And make sure you remember them!

OK, maybe there are some exceptions and some of your customers do like it when you call them by generic names like “honey”, “sweetheart” or “sweetie”…

But most of them like it when you’re both sexy and… personable. And there’s no easier way to be personable than by calling them by their names.

Give them your first name, too, if you feel comfortable.

Pro Tip! Never ever start your Skype shows naked!

Why would anyone want to pay a fancy restaurant the full price if they often give out free meals?

4. Remember the Details About Your Customers

And I’m not talking about their names here, but about details from your previous 1-on-1 sessions like:

  • their preferences (did they say they’d want you to lay back or that they get rock hard seeing you in a doggy position?)
  • the topics you chatted about: the upcoming NBA season, his/your pet, favorite movies… the weather

If you want long(er) privates, you need to provide your customers personalized experiences.

And you sure can’t personalize your steamy sessions on Skype if you keep asking them the same questions over and over again:

  • “How do you want me, daddy?”
  • “What do you do for a living?”

… that they’ve already answered to.

Or if you keep wearing red lingerie when they specifically asked you to wear… black one the last time you met online.

8 Ways to Engage Your Members: How to Increase Your Call Duration

5. Chat With Them on Skype Before You Go Live

Another handy way of getting to know your customers is to have a quick chat with them before you go live on cam.

This way, without the pressure of the clock ticking and the money going out of their SkyPrivate member accounts, they’ll be more open and at ease to chat with you.

Ask them a few questions in the chat window before you start the live session:

  • what fetishes are they into (did they already choose something from your “menu” or are they into something else, that you could offer them?)?
  • do your best to pick up on the clues they give you right at this point of your meeting: are they “shy typers”, are they into roleplay/domination, or rather into… chatting and “getting to know each other better”?

This way, you’ll know how to approach them when going live so that:

  • you’re not too shockingly open about your sexuality if they were expecting to see more of a naughty “girl next door” type of model 
  • you don’t annoy them and bore them by acting all “I’m here to listen” and “What kind of show would you like to see?” if they had hoped to meet a hot babe who would… boss them around.

6. Surprise Them with Out of the Box Questions

Instead of sounding like a call center robot who keeps asking the same standard questions:

  • “How are you today?”
  • “How was your day?”
  • “Where are you from?”
  • “What would you want me to do?”

… try asking them some out-of-the-box questions for a change. 

Be creative and be relevant.

8 Ways to Engage Your Members: How to Increase Your Call Duration

What clues do you see there in the background? Any fitness equipment or plants or… an aquarium? Or maybe a CD collection?

What does his accent tell you about him? How about the clothes he’s wearing?

As he answers, do your best to keep the conversation going…

Pro Tip! Slow it down, interact with your customers; that’s the only way you’ll get to know them.

For, if you strip, masturbate, and orgasm in the first 60 seconds, why should you expect your private sessions to last any longer than… 60 seconds?

7. Engage Your Customers with Open-Ended Questions

Instead of the Yes/No questions like:

  • “Do you want me laying on the bad here or standing?”
  • “Are you single or married?”

… try challenging them to give you longer answers and to engage with you in conversations.

Here are just 2 possible open-ended questions you could ask them:

  • “How do you like it when I touch it like this?”
  • “What part of my body turns you on?”

8. Interact with Them on Social Media

This is another way of getting to know them without the “charge by the minute” pressure.

Interact with your members even when you’re not performing on cam and do your best to build relationships with them.

Pro Tip! Always strive to turn your customers into regulars.

The stronger the relationships you develop with your members, the higher your earnings.

And you can’t build and grow those relationships if you don’t know them well enough to keep them engaged.

The END!

Are there any other techniques that you use to get to know your customers that you feel like sharing?

Or maybe you don’t really find some of these 8 tips that I’ve put in the spotlight here, all that efficient?

Feel free to share your suggestions/thoughts in the comments down below!